It NEVER fails.
You see, Shasha is a strong-willed child.
Strong-willed meaning…she can STAND STRONG with the best of them. She has an amazing ability to NOT GIVE IN. Ever. She is like a wild horse that at times…
She is hard headed and amazingly loving at the same time. She just has a hard time changing her attitude mid-emotion. She does not do well with things NOT GOING HER WAY. It isn’t necessarily that she ALWAYS wants her way…its just that when she comes up against a hardship ….she can’t hang.
She will complain and grovel. a lot.
She has a tendency to have a hard time learning her lessons. So hard that sometimes I just want to shake her and say, “LOOK…learn your lessons the 1st time!!! It will make life soooo much easier.”
As you can imagine…she USUALLY DOES NOT listen.
So it happens again and again….she gets the “short stick”.
Again and again….and again.
For instance…This summer we started a new chore system. mainly because Shasha wanted to do it differently.(till then we used rotating chore charts). She thought it would work better for her a “different way”.
So I started a NEW SYSTEM where I wrote all the chores on poker chips and put them in a tin can, and gave all the kids their own can.
I mean seriously….it couldn’t be MORE fair right? They pick their OWN chores. If they pick one they don’t like, they can’t complain to ME. Ha…brilliant, right? I figured at this point…it was out of my hands. I was really getting the hang of this parenting thing…LOL. NOT.
So…the 1st morning came and the kids picked their chores 1 at a time. Everyone smiled…except Shasha.
She picked EVERY CHORE she was bent on avoiding:
feed guinea pigs
water for chickens
water for guinea pigs
Every chore she HATES.
Every chore she was avoiding.
Every single one.
Needless to say, she was not pleased with this new arrangement.
She was PISSED. This had not worked the way she had intended.. at.all.
She looked at me waiting. Waiting for me to jump in and save her. Waiting for me to come to her rescue.
I looked at her and KNEW in that moment.
It was out of MY HANDS. God was in control of this one.
I explained to her that the chores were not the issue.
Her attitude was the issue. The fact that she didn’t willing accept what was given to her without complaining was the problem.
It was THE TEST.
I told her that in life God will put you to many tests. When he sees a problem inside us he is determined to fix it. He is a master at his craft and he will saturate our lives with the direct problems we need to face.
I was proven right when..for the next 3 days she pulled the SAME STINKIN’ CHORES.
He will put us to a test…UNTIL we pass.