I have learned to be content whatever the cicumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plent or living in want. I can do everything thru HIM that gives me strength. Phillippians 4:11-13
If I am being honest about homeschooling..I mean REALLY honest.
That is when I can admit that for some reason...teaching them the "basics" is gthe hardest for me...SO FAR.(I am SURE there are HARDER things to come!!!)
I am CONSTANTLY asking the "other" kids who come over...
"What are YOU doing in math?" "How did YOU learn your multiplication facts?" "What did YOU read today?" "How often do YOU do science?"
Most of the time I get VERY LITTLE info from my little public school friends..they are soooo OVER school questions! LOL
I cant help it...somewhere inside of me I still find it hard not to "compare" us to others.
I am REALLY working on that...but its a SLOW PROCESS.
Trying to RE-train my brain after YEARS of "conditioning".
I KNOW my kiddos are smart.
But...It has been a struggle(at times) to teach SOME of them to read.
I have found that I have to find a BALANCE somewhere in the middle.
Some MIDDLE ground..
On one hand- There are the UN-schooling books I have read that say, "Dont worry if they dont read till they are 11...its ok."(When I read THAT I almost LOST MY MIND....not till they are 11??? Thats WAY TOO UN-school, hippy style for EVEN ME!)
and on the OTHER HAND.. there is the "you HAVE to be at a certain LEVEL" view of the CONVENTIONAL public school.(Which is ONE of the reasons WHY we choose to Homeschool...so that we DO HAVE more FREEDOM.)
I have struggled with the fact that Ezekiel finds it REALLY HARD to piece it together.
He can read...but DOES NOT LIKE IT!!!
I have to MAKE HIM read.
AND ...while he is reading-I almost have to stand over him.
A struggle...for BOTH of US.
I WANT it to be easy for him...I WANT him to WANT TO READ!
I am learning that as the children grow older, the things that I WANT for them arent always so.
The same things arent always going to be EASY for all of us.
Zeek is an AMAZING creative thinker, humanitarian, and LOVES science!
ALL which are JUST AS important as READING EASILY at 8!
Shashamane is 2 years younger than Zeek and can probably read at a 3rd grade level....ALREADY.
I taught her the "rules" of reading once and she has NEVER looked back.
She is 6 and I have started to find her on the couch READING...without being ASKED!!!
To me...THAT is a miracle.
I am learning to appreciate that it takes "creativity" on MY PART to get some kids interested.
I now get Zeek interested in reading by steering him towards books like "Captain Underpants". (If you dont know- its POTTY HUMOR..All the way!)
I have learned that he IS INTERESTED in reading...as long as WHAT he is reading has SOMETHING to do with farting, burping, peeing, pooping, or eating ANYTHING gross!
Its like I always say..."Get in where you fit in."
For now...We apparently "fit in" with GROSS little boys who WANT to read about SMELLY FARTS and STINKY POOP! LOL
This is something I read on a friend of mines BLOG.....From her Mother-in-law: Good Stuff!
I grow increasingly convinced that God values children much, much more than we do.
We value a clean floor more than children. We value free time more than children. We value the good dishes more than children. We value going out to eat or watching grown-up television shows more than we value children.
All the world, including the church, tells us that children are a bother, perhaps even a mistake. If you don’t believe that, introduce a family with many babies into your church and see how long it takes for someone to say, “They know what causes that, don’t they?”
We have let the world convince us that a large family is a curse, when the Bible clearly teaches that many children are a blessing, a sign of God’s great favor.
If I had the choice right now, there would be more children in my family. And I think I might be brave enough to let God decide how many.
I remember that it seemed a little frantic around my house when the children were little. I never got “it all” done, whatever “it all” is. There was not much privacy or money or free time. There was lots of laundry and garbage and stinky stuff. The boys were going to be 2 and 4 forever. It was never going to end.
Don’t get me wrong - I enjoyed my boys. But it was all colored by that worldly, selfish, hurry-up-and-grow-up attitude. And then it was over. I woke up one morning and they were almost as tall as me. The next day, or so it seemed, they didn’t even live with us. Now there is not much garbage or laundry or stinky stuff. And there is much more privacy and money and free time.
I’d trade it all in a heartbeat.
I would do laundry around the clock if it meant I could have one more day with my little boys in my home. I want the piles of blue jeans back. If my family had been larger, perhaps I would have grown in wisdom and learned to treasure the tiny victories and agonies of everyday. Perhaps not, but at least it would have lasted longer.
You think they’ll be little forever. You can’t imagine being able to handle – afford – care for another little life. But you can. And it will be over before you know it, with plenty of years left to use the good dishes.
WOW!!!! I thought I would be able to RELAX this summer. I envisioned myself LAYING in a chair on the beach...READING!! What was I thinking???????? We are busier THESE days than when we were "in" school!!!
This a post from a while ago.....I LOVE it though.
Ezekiel is an amazing child...
He is just as beautiful on the inside as he is on the outside.
Tonight we were watching "Planet Earth" and all the sudden he turned to me and said , "Mom, I think when I get older I want to make things and have a store and when people can afford them they can buy them..and when they CAN'T...I'll just GIVE it to them."
I said, "Thats great ..You know that God appreciates those things when they come from your heart. What are you going to invent???"
Zeek said, " I have already thought of it. I am going to make a bus, but longer and fatter, so that families with lots of kids can use it."
At this point..I am TOTALLY FALLING in LOVE with this child who is growing up actually in front of me as we spoke.
He then follows me around the house and tells me all kinds of details about OTHER inventions he has ALREADY thought of!!!
Like...headphones that are somehow connected to a TV that shows your thoughts?????? (PLEASE God....Do NOT grant him the wisdom to make THIS....LOL)Sometimes I would be in trouble....
AMAZING....His Brain is EXPANDING as we speak!!!
Then- as usual I try and "sneak" in a lesson or activity...
I said, "Why don't we get you a poster and we'll write "ZEEKS INVENTIONS" on it and over time you can draw all the inventions you think of???"
I, of course, thought this was BRILLIANT and SNEAKY...
His response..."Uh...No, Maybe when I'm older."
Then he kept talking as if I had said NOTHING.
He saw thru my plan...He KNEW he would have to pick up a PENCIL!!!
What an AMAZING child that, GOD-WILLING, I am SURE will grow up to be an AMAZING MAN...
Sheba Ithiopia Vallone.....A ROYAL name for a ROYAL girl.
Sheba has sucha sweet soul...She is a caretaker at heart.
She is very observative and ALWAYS knows JUST what someone needs.
She sits with Jay at night and rubs his head and says, " I Love you Daddy", and is ALWAYS first to get him ANYTHING he needs.
She has been growing up in front of our eyes lately... It is HARD for me to believe that she is almost 4 years old!!!! Our BABY????? Almost 4???? Couldnt be.... Shoulnt be.... Where did the time go????
Its Friday again....Time for "Fabulous Book" Friday!!!
"Homeschooling at the speed of Life" is a great book...It helped me get thru the 1st year of homeschooling.
There were times that I doubted that I COULD homeschool these 4 monkeys!!!! LOL
And THIS BOOK helped me thru those times. It helped me KNOW that I COULD do it. I had doubts...as ALL homeschool moms do!!!
We are CONDITIONED to BELIEVE that Public school is the ONLY way. I went to a GREAT SCHOOL in Texas....one of the BEST. We were ALWAYS very involved in school...My Dad was the PRESIDENT of the SCHOOL BOARD...AND great at it!!!(Love you Daddy -XOXO) I had a GREAT time in school. ALTHOUGH...I think that FOR ME- NOW is a different TIME.
I have made a choice to homeschool for MANY reasons. But I have had to WILLFULLY TRY and UN-condition myself from the way society says is the ONLY way.
And I think MOST people can agree that there are MORE THAN 1 WAY!!!!
I Love all my friends who chose public school...I respect THEIR decisions.. I have been to their SCHOOL FUNCTIONS and had a GREAT time!!!! I LOVE that they have THOUGHT about what is best for THEIR families...And Public school is it!
I think that this book would be a "FABULOUS" book for ANY Mom....Homeschooling or NOT!!! Happy Reading!!!
1 Blessed is he who has regard for the weak; the LORD delivers him in times of trouble. 2 The LORD will protect him and preserve his life; he will bless him in the land and not surrender him to the desire of his foes. 3 The LORD will sustain him on his sickbed and restore him from his bed of illness. Psalm 41:1-3
I have said it before an I will say it again. Shashamane is a HYPOCHONDRIAC. Today she manage to FREAK out about a FEW things. At one point she was eating peanuts (w/ the shell). LATER she came to me an KEPT asking, "Mom, is it ok if you eat the shells?" "No Shasha...Don't eat the shells." Well, little did I know, THAT would freak her out more. For the next THIS is what I heard.... "Is it OK if you eat the shells?" "Mom, what if you DO eat the shells?" "Is it really bad MOM?" "What will HAPPEN, Mom?" After she said "Mom, what if you eat just 1 shell?"...I KNEW IT! She ha eaten a shell and was FREAKING OUT!!!!! I said, "Shashamane, If you eat 1 shell your are fine. Please don't eat ALOT of the shells...it will make you sick."
THEN.... I was going to take our dog Maya for a skate-run. This is where I ride my skateboard and I have Maya on a lease and she pulls me...FUN! Well all the kids wanted to watch, so I told them to stay on the side of the street in the grass. While we were walking over there Shasha said, "Mom, What if you get hurt?" SERIOUSLY??????? "Shasha ...I wont get hurt." "But what if you FALL????" "Then Ill get back up."...RIGHT????
Sometimes I wonder why it is that God gave me SOME children that have NO FEAR and 1 that FEARS EVERYTHING????